Positioning yourself for your Boaz..Part 2

So still on the process of identifying your Boaz, as a single lady you have to make the conscious effort of developing yourself. Don't just sit and say" oh when I find him that is when I will make my life so much better". Girl, I tell you no man wants a liability for a wife. If its being a good money manager? work at it, is it being good at keeping confidential information? work at it! Don't keep waiting an be complacent. Ruth 2:2 " And Ruth the Moabite said to Naomi 'let me go to the fields and pick up the leftover grain behind anyone in whose eyes I find favour". If Ruth had just sat down an had a pity party for herself she wouldn't have eventually met Boaz.

Another crucial point is make your relationship with God a priority as a single lady. You can't keep asking for a husband with all the nice qualities and you don't spend time studying the word or serving in the house of God. 2 Timothy 3:16-17 " All scriptures is given by inspiration of God and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction , for instruction in righteousness that the man of God may be perfect , thoroughly furnished unto all". Years before I met my Husband I wasn't as close to God as I should be, I was going to church I was int he choir but I wasn't spending quality time with God as I should. I dated a few guys but those times were miserable because I didn't really spend time enough with God to know they wrong guys for me. After God renewed my mind and my heart I put an end to those relationships and I was more in love with God than before, I started reading the bible more, meditating and speaking God's word over my future marriage.

Let God be your true identity, don't wait until the guy comes then you make God the number one in your life, certain things God will only reveal to you when you spend time in his word.Most times He will give you the sensitivity to either advance or withdraw from the relationship altogether.

The final point is be patient with God..." They that wait on the lord shall renew their strength..." Isaiah 40:31. As a single lady try not to be a serial dater, going from one guy to another. We often times like guys that gives us attention or tell us we are beautiful etc while deep down your gut is telling you he is so wrong for you, then we get entangled because we want to get married at all cost. I know its hard especially when all your friends are getting married and having babies, then you think yourself " lord when will mine come" God is telling you wait my child I am working it out. I was a girl who wanted to get married at 25, have all my kids by age 30, but guess what it didn't happen then because that was my plan. God knew I wouldn't be ready because He needed to work on me before meeting my Boaz. He needed me to be patient, be more prayerful etc. This might not be your area that needs work but think for a second can you marry yourself right now? what I mean is are you content with the person you are right now? if you were to marry yourself today would you be happy? You have to make sure all those little things are dealt with e.g anger, envy, malice etc.

Be patient with God at the same time don't be picky, big things come in small packages. Stop giving God crazy lists rather ask God to give you a man that He has destined for you. I know this journey of singleness can be very frustrating at times and lonely trust me I was there too but with patient and focus on God He will see through it all.