Praying for Your Future Spouse

How many of you pray for your future spouse? I did, not as regularly as I should and it always ended up something along the lines of “Heavenly Father, I pray for my future husband that he would be a man of God. Someone who loves you with all his heart.”. It was very generic and the most common thing we pray for in a future spouse, that they love God and are Godly men. Now this post is going to speak to women however men...you can take the following for when you pray for your future wife!

So I ordered a book online that I had been wanting to purchase ever since listening to Robin Jones-Gunn on the Boundless podcast. She was speaking about this specific topic and her book “Praying for Your Future Husband. Preparing Your heart for His.”. I waited and waited to purchase it and then I felt that I was in a place where I needed to buy it, start reading it right away and putting it into action. I always felt my generic prayers were sufficient. God knows my heart right...He knows everything I'm looking for and what I'm not looking for. Why do I need to be super specific. I'm not being too demanding by just praying for a man who loves God with all his heart...a Godly man! This topic is one that comes up between Rachael and I occasionally and she gave me points on what I should be praying for as well. I put them on a post-it note and they are in my journal. Now I'm going to be honest and admit that I prayed them only a few times and then went back to my generic prayers.

I ordered the book and as soon as it arrived I started reading it that night. I made it into a nightly devotional on top of my others that I was doing. It worked well as each night you can take a chapter and focus all your attention on each item you are praying for. I highly recommend this as I believe that if you read it all at once it may be overwhelming and a long prayer. Each chapter was on something different that I didn't think I really needed to focus on as if your looking for a Godly man...it should be included in the package. I'm not going to go through every chapter but some that stuck out for me were praying for protection, praying for contentment, praying for patience and understanding. There is also loyalty, trust, intimacy, commitment, etc.

This book is written by Robin Jones-Gunn and Tricia Goyer. Each chapter the ladies provided their own life experiences with each topic. It was interesting to see two different experiences with their previous relationships and how their lives are now with their husbands...that they prayed for! The chapters also provide a number of scripture verses and at the end of the book they lay them all out. There is 52 verses in total, one for each week of the year so you can take a week and meditate on each verse and continue praying for your future spouse. There is prayers that you can read (I read them out loud and made them my personal prayers each night I read a chapter), one for your future spouse and one for you. As I prayed each one and took time in between each to pray other things on my heart it made me realize how I need to keep my heart pure, steadfast and true for my future husband! They provide tips on how you can pray as well, if you do not wish to use their prayers they have provided. My goal is to write all their tips and scriptures out and make them prayer points each day. What they also have provided in each chapter is a section of questions with spaces for your answers that you can write in the book and make it your own. I didn't write in mine as I may be lending it out if I need to. There is also parts of women who prayed for their future husbands and how God answered their prayers! It was so nice to read how God worked in these women's lives and answered their prayers.

For me the tough part is the patience part. The worldly part of me thought well I prayed and focused on each of these parts so my husband should be at the end...like a pot of gold. But the spiritual part of me knows in my heart that it doesn't work that way. My job is to give God my life, give Him my soul, give Him my future and all my desires. My job is to pray for things in my life that I am happy and blessed to have. To pray for friends and family that have health concerns or prayer requests that they ask me to pray for. To pray for my future husband. I know he's out there and I pray that he is praying for me just as much as I'm praying for him. My job is to continually pray for him and know that in God's timing He will bring us together and it will be beautiful because we waited and prayed for each other and God gifted us with each other.

A poem in the book that was written by Rachel Gunn about patience was just beautiful and I believe it's something that we all think about at some point in our journey. If you are a reader I encourage you to pick up a copy of the book and take a chapter each day to meditate and pray on.I encourage you to pray for your future spouse. Pray specific topics each day for traits that you with for him to have and allow God to give you your future spouse at His right timing!

Where Are You?

I have waited so patiently.

Where are you?

They said if I would wait as if I was not expecting anything to happen, you would arrive.

Where are you?

I have been dreaming of you for years yet still my dreams don't become reality.

Where are you?

I have been writing you letters and saving them for you.

Where are you?

Everyone around me is getting this question answered while I sit alone.

Where are you?

Are you asking the same question of me?

I'm right here.

Where are you?

My hand is lonely without yours to fill it.

How long must I wait?

I'm ready. Are you?

Waiting...My life feels like an endless line of waiting.

Where is my fast pass?

How can I pass go and collect you?

Why does it feel like I always get the shoots when everyone else is getting the ladders?

Where are you?

- Rachel Gunn

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