Will he ever find me?

Being single can be extremely challenging,especially when everyone you know or is close to you is getting married and having kids. I won't sugar coat it because it is very hard and if you focus on that you get sucked into thinking the right guy will never find me. This is a way the devil lets you think God doesn't care about you love life, and I will tell you that it is a big lie.

I remember when my first ever relationship failed I thought to myself that well that's it I will never get married. Soon after that my younger sister got engaged and that was when the devil tried to let me think that it will never happen for me. Well I can tell you this I picked myself up (although it wasn't always easy), studied the word of God and I thanked God that one of mine sisters is able to enjoy this season of her life. During that time I made sure I sought for God's help every single day so I was able to be genuinely happy for my sister. It was then that God helped me discover that I needed to work on myself before he can have my future husband find me.

The one rule I learnt from this experience is to never look down on myself and to think I'm not good enough for anyone. There is a passage in the book of Songs of Solomon that gave me the reassurance and I spoke this over myself daily, it describes how the lover sees his bride. Songs of Solomon 6 vs 10 " Who is this whose glance is like the dawn? She is beautiful and bright as dazzling as the sun or the moon". Every day I did this I felt empowered and thought well of myself and I never doubted God's care or his love for me getting married.

I know there are times we pray and we ask God questions like this lord why am I still single? , we go on an on about how we better than sister A or friend B. Look its not for you to ask but to rely on God through this period, stop thinking less of yourself because God made you beautiful. Stop thinking will I be good enough for any man because your last relationship didn't work out. Trust me the reason it didnt work was because it wasn't meant to be, so trust God, believe you are loved and at his appointed time the man he has destined for you will find you.

I had to uproot myself from my "comfortable" position which was a hindrance, but when I decided to trust God without wavering then My beloved located me. What is it that God is telling you? Is he saying move out of your comfort zone? Serve him more? Till you obey his words and position yourself your Boaz might not find you. So I encourage you today obey the voice of the holyspirit, change your focus and believe that you are dawn fresh moon lovely and you are his beloved because he cares so much even about your future marriage.