Be Specific

I started praying for my future husband when I was 10 years old, not because I thought about him at that age but because it was something my mum suggested. One evening when we were saying our bedtime prayers she said" you know now is the time to start praying for your future husband and your marriage". I looked at her confused because I thought I have a long way before that will ever happen. Needless to say I still prayed because knowing my she will ask if I did or not..lol.

I prayed but all I said was " Lord bring him to me when I'm twenty-five, let him be tall dark handsome and have a good things"...Lol. This all seemed silly but still I prayed. It wasn't until fourteen years later that I was really specific about what I wanted in the man I was asking God for and the kind of marriage I wanted God to give me. Now you might think what else should I be praying for other than for the right man to find me and we live happily ever after? Trust me its way more than that. As a single lady waiting on God for your Godly man, now is the time to really intensity your prayers on every single thing you could think of that you want in your man and your marriage. The bible says "pray without ceasing"...1 Thessalonians 5:17.

My prayers before I met my husband I decide be more specific in what I was asking for in my husband and my marriage. This was because the holy spirit made me realize that to make a marriage beautiful and to make it last, I will need to pray about certain things in order for this to happen. One the first things on my prayer list was my marriage and I started asking God daily for a lasting marriage, a marriage that will bless others and bring glory to his name and I'm seeing results today in multiple folds.

Secondly, I prayed for my in-laws because when you marry your husband you marry his whole family not just him alone. I always and still prays for my mother-in-law, my father-in-law and anyone related to my husband, that we would love each other and our relationship will be strengthened. Now you're probably thinking why should I do all that? it is very vital to your marriage because if things are not good between you and your in-laws you end up either being miserable or frustrated. This is my own opinion.

Also pray for your children, Psalm 127:3 " Children are a heritage from the lord, offspring a reward from him. Praying and speaking positive things into your children's lives is very important even before they are conceived speak life, words of truth and wisdom into them, so that when they are finally here you will see God work in and through them.

Another aspect to pray for while waiting is the area of finances for your marriage. This is one of the things that brings division in marriages, we see husbands and wives fighting and arguing over money. One of the prayers I always prayed was " Lord let money not break my home", I still pray that prayer till today and I also pray for God's provision daily financially and the wisdom to manage it as a couple. It was also an aspect my husband and I were very sensitive to when we were planning our wedding. We were very open with each other, we talked and prayed about our finances and when things would seem hard to resolve we would ask for God's wisdom and things will be resolved.

Why not start praying about these things don't stop with my list, add to it.Are there a certain qualities you want in your children? pray about it; Is there a way you want your in-laws to treat you ? pray about it. Don't stop praying about any and everything as it pertains to your marriage because prayer works and while you are waiting, ask God not just for the man to find you but for your relationship as a couple to be Godly and beautiful.